A lot of us struggle to make change stick. Myself included.
Now, it's real easy to get frustrated, get all up in your feels and throw the towel in. Trying to convince ourselves that,
Or something along those lines. But it still niggles at you, gnawing at the back of your mind, so you try again, only to repeat the same mistakes, make a little progress, then fall spectacularly off the wagon.
Sound familiar? Well I want you to consider this..
This is what is supposed to happen. Seriously. I remember once listening to a internationally respected Coach talk about two critical factors that drive behaviour. These two factors are pleasure and pain.
If what you want to achieve causes more pain (emotional or physical) than where you are already, then we subconsciously choose the option that is less painful.
If the situation that you are in is more painful than what you want to achieve, then you will take action.
If both situations are painful, we choose the one that is least painful, and if both situations provide pleasure, we gravitate towards the one that gives more bliss. Make sense?
But here's the thing, at some point the painful situation we are in (which provided the momentum for change) requires bigger action, and more inner work to gain, or continue this momentum.
Action requires movement, movement causes friction, friction causes pain.
So now, when you are at a new set point in your journey and need to get to that next level, we see the pain ahead and not the pleasure of the achievement that we want.
Our new found habits that were getting us results to begin with, dwindle and fizzle out. We lose momentum and come to a stop. All because we forgot to ask ourselves these 4 Crazy Questions.
4 Crazy Questions
As a Precision Nutrition Coach, this is a tool I highly recommend, and an approach that I take with Nutrition Coaching clients. But it also works great for fitness, and any other realm of goal setting too. Here's how it works...
Often when we set a goal, we make a plan and get so caught up in taking action and focusing on our "WHY", that we neglect to possibly think the reason that we haven't made change stick is because, believe it or not, we get some sort of pay-off from the current situation.
I know, mind blown right?
So ask yourself...
Q1) What is good about NOT changing?
What is working for me right now? What are the benefits of me staying the same?
Q2)What would be BAD about changing?
If I changed, what might I have to give up or lose? How would my regular routine be disrupted?
Q3)What might be GOOD about changing?
If I changed, how would that be helpful or beneficial? What new opportunities or possibilities could open up for me?
Q4)What might be BAD about NOT changing?
If I didn't change, what bad things could happen? If I keep going the way I am going, what might things look like in the future - say 5 - 10 years from now?
When I first do this exercise with the men and women I coach, they often initially find it challenging. This is perfectly normal (I still find it challenging when I do it myself!). Yet once they get into it, they find it remarkably useful.
The freedom to express and verbalise some of the things that they may have not been willing to admit to themselves, or just were not plain aware of (we all have blind spots) somehow gives them a sense of freedom and lifts a weight off their shoulders.
This new found energy often gives them the inspiration they need to continue the momentum once they fall off the wagon, or have come to a stop. This energy, when combined with action, is what enables them to break through their plateau and climb to that next level.
One small step at a time.
Try it. It could just work for you too.