New Year, New You? Now here's the uncomfortable truth..
Everything you need to get fit and healthier has already been written or created.
Think about it.
Chances are it's also available somewhere on the internet for FREE or little to no cost.
So if lack of knowledge and information is not the problem, what's really stopping you?
Just another number.
Still another chance.
I had only 30 minutes to work yesterday. Now this looks simple and light but it's brutal.
15 minutes Superset (No rest)
A) Barbell Deadlifts (120kg)
B) Dumbell Bench Press (70kg)
6 reps of each continuously.
(Stopped counting after 10 sets.)
Finished off with light CV and stretching.
Life happens. You can still adapt your workout rather than skip it.
You got this!
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"Ponder on it. For one day you are going to die for sure."
- Suzanne Michal
How do you feel about talking about death?
For many the subject is morbid, for others it brings back painful memories they'd rather forget or still try to supress. The truth is, that here in the west it's not exactly dinner table conversation.
But I think it should be. Living when a loved one has died is a challenge that so many of us are facing right now, whether it's 6 days, 6 months, 6 years or 30 years down the line. Yet often we don't openly talk about it, and the impact it can have on our day to day lives, our intimate relationships, and even ourselves on a deeper level. We don't share what we are going through, we don't discuss what strategies are working for us, to help us to bounce back, or become unstuck. What we can do to move us from that dark space. We don't openly share our experience with others who are embarking on the journey, so that they can benefit from our wisdom, or at least know they are not alone.
I think that needs to change.
I've been facillitating on Death Cafe's, writing articles and worked as a coach around death and grief for a total of around 5 years now. But I have never shared my personally story in full, or the strategies I've used.
That's about to change right now.
Living When A Loved One Has Died: Lynden & Me is a series of podcasts about my personal and professional experience about grief. It's my contribution to the wider dialogue on death. You can click on the link below to listen to episode CSW015 which is the first part of the series. Plus you can also leave me a personal voice message with any questions you may have or topics you'd like me to cover in the future episode of the series. If you want to get in touch about getting coaching to help you on your journey of grief then that's ok too.
There is also a pdf show notes that you can download which features a reading list, links to useful videos and helpful tools for those experiencing grief and just need a little help
Click Here To Listen To CSW015 Living When A Loved One Has Died
Let me leave you with this, by Earl. A. Grollman
Grief has left you drained
What did you expect?
To fill the void immmediately?
To go on living as before?
There is no short cut in
the mouring process.
It must be worked through."
Think about it.
I'm not talking about the literal colour of your hat (had you there for a second right?) So what am I talking about?
Have you ever been stuck in a situation by your own point of view, then someone else came along and effortlessly pointed out a solution to your problem? In fact it seems so obvious once they've said it, you wonder how on earth you didn't think of it in the first place? Maybe it was your Coach, maybe it was another player. Think about it, I'm sure you can recall a time when this has happened to you or a friend.
Or what about that member of your team that just can't seem to get on board with that idea, project or way of doing things. No matter how hard you try to explain, they just don't get it. It might cost you the championship, first place on the podium, or even hundreds of thousands of pounds in revenue on that work project.
TOP TIP If you can't identify that person on your team either 1) You have a superb team and no doubt you smash everything you do or 2) That person I'm talking about is probably you!
What I'm leading up to is this, back in 1986 creative thinking guru Edward de Bono presented his Thinking Hat's model. So what is that? Well, in Bono's model, each member of the team are assigned a temporary one-dimensional point of view of "Thinking Hat" . The six hats each have a colour and correspond to a unique point of view.
How does it work? The many angles of an idea or strategy is discussed by the members of the team. In a sporting or competition context, this "team" can be a team of coaches who want to map out strategy for the team of athletes. It could be the actual "team" who play in the arena of sport (i.e Football Captain and the players, or Crossfit teams) or it could be a combination of the Coaches and the athlete (i.e MMA Coaches and the fighter to map out fight strategy). Remember, the key thing is that all members of the group wear the same colour hat at the same time, and then work their way through each of the colours to get divergent points of view, so that the best possible solution can be created.
The Six Hats
Now as you transition to different hats and points of view, it's worth remembering to have a moderator to ensure that,
1) The team do not slip out of their "roles" and into different hats.
2) It doesn't all kick off, and you end up with scenario that looks like it was fresh out of a Resevoir Dogs script!