If you don't know what a Dad-Bod is, you're either,
A) Not a dad
But in all seriousness, if you have a Dad-Bod I don't need to tell you what one is. So lets not cover old ground, as many other articles have dissected it already. But I want to come at it from a slightly different angle.
Think of it like this, if you are completely happy with your body, and don't compare your current physical state to the finely tuned (or reasonably tuned) Adonis that you were before becoming a dad, then you don't need to read on.
But if like many men out there, during the first year of parenthood you noticed that your fitness started slipping (along with your sleep), that your face became a little puffier. You found yourself snacking more frequently, becoming more stressed, those jeans no longer fit, and your shirt buttons now holding on for dear life as you push them to their limits when you eventually do find time to go out with friends and get dressed up.
Then this article is for you.
Maybe you are on your second or third child now, and think that you have passed the point of no return, and it's a pipe-dream to make any real impact to your health.
Well I'm here to tell you this simple truth. If you don't take care of yourself, you may not be around to enjoy your children in later years. These are facts, and they suck. It sucks for you, and it sucks for your family. Do it for them, but most importantly, do it for you. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be healthier, wanting to feel better and look good. Nothing wrong with wanting to be fit for you or your family. No matter what you think, It's never too late.
They media may say that it's vain, your peers may even ridicule you. In fact, as you begin to change and improve your quality of life, you will become a target.
A target for all the other men who deep down who wanted to change, but have managed to convince themselves not to. Your achievements will become a painful reminder that they sold themselves short. They'll redirect their own disappointment and anger. They'll make off hand remarks about how you look, fears about you "over doing it" telling you that "you looked better with the weight on".
Don't be fooled.
They are not doing it because they care about you, they are doing it to make themselves feel better, while trying to knock you off track - it's that simple. But you don't have to let that be your fate. If you want to reinvent your Dad-Bod let me introduce you to a working man, a father of two, who did just that. But before you meet Jimmi, I want you make sure that you fully understand the seven steps to reinventing the Dad-Bod, and it all starts with your mindset.
So what does that look like in real life? Meet Jimmi. Jimmi is approaching forty, a father of two, a husband and runs his own business. Jimmi was at a point in his life where he recognised that if he continued down the same road of not taking care of himself, that it would not end well.
Jimmi recently finished a twelve month program with me, that completely changed his health and life for good. All in less than a year. But I'll let him tell you about reinventing the Dad-Bod in his own words.
"I work in the wine trade for an internationally renowned champagne house. I joined Mentzendorff last year, looking after Bollinger and other wine agencies in the National on-trade in the UK. I got into the wine industry 22 years ago by accident. I love my job, it's varied nature and the social aspect it brings. Learning the history of the brand's I look after is really interesting, some have over 400 years of trading history. But I am concerned about the potential damage to my health.
What do you find is the most challenging thing about your job?
"The biggest challenge I face is the alcohol consumption and the fact that it's seen as a requirement. Limiting the amount I drink is often difficult."
A lot of dads will say that they simply don't have time, but you've seemed to have made it work - how do you make training and healthy eating fit into your lifestyle?
"Eating fresh and home made food has always been important to me so switching to healthy alternatives wasn't a struggle, I just saw it as a new challenge and a way to increase my repertoire of dishes. I'm lucky that I manage my own diary so getting out for a run or going to the gym isn't quite as challenging as it could be.. however I do still get up early to do yoga or kettlebells before work and I always take running stuff when I travel."
Is there anything that you'v had to give up to make these changes? If so, what?
"I've massively reduced how much meat I eat but actually giving something up totally is something I don't want to do.. that then becomes a demon and can easily knock you off course. I've given up the mind set that used to tell me I couldn't do something."
What have you gained? Or in what way has being healthy made your life that much more better?
It's the overall improvement to my health that's the biggest benefit.. I feel stronger fitter and faster.. I also feel.really proud of myself and know that I can do it.. if I stumble or slow it down for any reason I don't panic anymore.. just wipe the slate clean and start again.
You recently took part in my online 12 month fitness and nutrition program, what made you decide to take part?
"Cj never gave up on me.. It's a great program for people like me who were lost when it came to fitness..I learned to take it a step at a time, consistency and habits. I learned to believe in myself."
How did the program change your life, and is there anything that came up for you that you were not expecting?
It's changed my life for the better.. I'm happier about my appearance although I'll never be satisfied totally. I learned that that's ok and it's not just me that feels that way. I wasn't expecting to join the gym at the end!!! (which I did).
The importance of my health and fitness is playing an ever increasing role these days. I use fitness as a way to challenge myself, now looking for more varied activities to keep me interested.
Thanks for giving us a glimpse into your process of reinventing the Dad-Bod Jimmi.
When it comes to reinventing the Dad-Bod there is no blueprint "out there". Recognise that you are the blueprint. Reinventing the Dad-Bod is about recognising that it's your body, your mind, your rules. You don't have to live up to media and societal perceptions of what a man should or shouldn't look like - you get to choose.
What you want to achieve, and the path you take will be as unique as you, and a your lifestyle circumstances. Whether you are a "stay -at-home" Dad, an entrepreneur, run your own business, married, recently divorced and have tonnes, or no experience, as long as you follow the 7 steps outlined above to reinventing the Dad-Bod, you'll be out of the blocks to a cracking start, and if you need help keeping you going, checkout my online fitness coaching and nutrition programs based on "The 5 Pillars of Health."
If you want to first get your toes wet, and be held to a higher standard, then why not join our Online 10 Dad-Bod Challenge which starts November 15th. It's completely FREE and will set you up for the win.