"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.
In the best selling book, "Code of the Extraordinary Mind" Vishen Lakhaini talks about BRules (BS rules). Brules are rules we tell ourselves, either directly or ones that have been fed to us through peers, family, or our culture.
These are rules that constrict our true potential, but are taken as true, yet once we begin to examine them fall apart like a cheap flat-packed wardrobe.
I'm sure you've heard of "Once you hit a certain age it's hard to lose weight" or "You can't have a social life if you want to keep fit." You get the idea, and god forbid if you are a stay at home dad. No doubt you'll have come head on against a certain set of BRules too, which judge your entire "manhood" - it's ridiculous right? Whether you stay at home or work doesn't mean you are any more or less of a man (or a human being). But this is the nature of BRules. They are archaic. They used to work, but no longer serve us.
As a coach, I've watched as many of my clients have transitioned into fatherhood. Often more than once. Each time brings with it its own unique set of challenges, but the first time is usually the biggest shock, as they attempt to hold on to habits they enjoyed in the past, while juggling their new commitments. Time is now even more at a premium.
To meet the needs of their family, the first thing that often goes in the first year is their fitness. If you are someone who hasn't been active most of your life then this aspect makes no real difference to you. But for those who were used to being physically active it can be a painful transition. Changes in energy, body image, sleeplessness, and mood can come as a shock. For many dads working out is as much about channelling tension, aggression, release form daily pressure and "me time" for their mental well being. When you remove this, you take block the pressure valve, that can leak out in other ways - often showing up in the relationship or at work.
If you are a dad that can relate to this then my 10 day online challenge is for you.
But what if you are a dad that hasn't really worked out before, but you recognise that if you don't take care of your health now, you won't be around to enjoy your family in later years?
Maybe you're starting to notice just bending over to pick your socks up off the floor is an effort. That you can't get out of the sofa without making strange noises. Lower back pain has gone from being occasional to a familiar friend (you know it well).
You get out of breath easily. You don't so much as seize the day, but grab it with a limp grip, then let it slip away.
I'm not going to make outrageous promises about results you can get in 10 days. But what I am going to tell you is that most people think what that they need is the latest diet or workout - when what they really need is behaviour change. In Vishen Lakhaini makes an important point
Often we can spend too much time in one area, such as our beliefs, without adequately developing new approaches to what we do through habit change. That's what this 10 day challenge will focus on. Small habits, the when worked on consistently will take on a compound effect for greater wins. It all starts November 15th and its the last online challenge for this year. Register [here] to get involved.
See you on the other side.